Are You Being Enough To Yourself??
- Yvonne (Eve)
- Oct 20, 2018
- 3 min read
A lot of the time we can be everything to everyone else, except ourselves.
Continue reading to find out why it is important to set up healthy boundaries.
How many times were you a listening ear?
...a crutch in a heavy situation?
...a mediator in a disagreement?
...a backup when someone needed a ride?
...a first call when someone needed gas money?
Now how many times have you gotten burned?
...you've not only felt physically drained, but emotionally drained?
...you've been the middle person?
...you've been the first person someone calls when they need a ride?
...you've been the only person helping someone with gas money, or even food?
I'm not saying helping someone is a bad thing. I'm also not saying that helping someone is always emotionally draining.
I am, however, saying that in most situations you could be the enabler without noticing it. You could be enabling people's habits and forgetting about the most important thing...YOURSELF.
In order to truly be yourself, you have to set healthy boundaries for the people in your life.
I have learned throughout my journey that it is okay to not only tell people how you would like to be treated, but show them how you would like to be treated.
The first way they would learn this is just by looking at how you treat yourself. And the first lesson would be showing them that you do not tolerate putting yourself second in any situation. It's showing them that you will not put your emotional state at risk to help someone you didn't have the desire to help in the first place.
So when I asked:
"Are you being enough to yourself?"
I meant are you protecting your energy?
...are you protecting your space?
...are you putting yourself first?
...are you being stern in who you spend your time with?
You should be evaluating your surroundings all the time. Something I have learned is that it's okay to sit down and evaluate what habits you have acquired recently, who you have let into your space recently and if they are bringing any type of value into your space.
Nobody, not even yourself, should feel guilty or judgmental for doing such thing.
It's either protecting your space now or having to exterminate because you had some bad vibes invade your space.
Think of your space as that of a woman's womb. That womb is a sacred space holding a life. Wouldn't you want to be protected from all of outside elements...negative elements that people bring through their actions, words, looks and thoughts?
Just as a womb protects a life from outside elements, so should your space protect you from those types of elements. Elements that with just a cruel word, a cruel gesture, a dirty look and a vile thought could get contaminated.
Again I ask you:
Are you being enough for you?
How can you do better?
How can you protect your space?
How can you create positive energy all the time?
How can you create healthy boundaries?
How far you are willing to go is how important you are to yourself.
How far you are willing to go is who matters most to you.
How far you are willing to go is how much you care about yourself.
Knowing yourself, would you consider yourself conscious when healthy boundaries are in place? Or would you consider yourself an invader of the sacred space?
I had so much fun sharing this with you, if you would like to learn more on this topic, message me on Live Chat. To personally work with me, visit the Work With Me tab.
Yvonne (Eve)
xoxo
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